Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Control, Are You With Me?

Control is one of my favorite things, in case you didn't know it.  Being in control of things, circumstances, feelings, or even everything is something that I thrive with.  That, I think, is at least partially a human attribute so I expect most people feel that way some days.  And being in control - self-control - is healthy, good thing.  But, sometimes you lose it, through circumstances beyond your control.  Like this morning.  Evidently this morning I slept through our 5:30 alarm and Randy decided we needed to sleep instead of going on our morning walk.  That fact, no matter how much I might have needed to sleep or appreciate Randy's mercy on the issue, puts me behind and a little less 'under control'.

Of course that is a minor setback, I know.   What if you were injured, a family member is sick, you are sick (or pregnant like EVERYONE these days) and whatever the reason cannot perform certain duties on time, in the same way or maybe at all.  For us control loving people, that can push you over the edge!  In major or minor situations, you really have two options for reactions.  You can get frustrated, upset and resist the reality - which has been my knee-jerk reaction and gets you nowhere but further behind - or you can accept the reality and shift where necessary.  At 5:30 am, it is still dark anyway so we agreed to walk tonight after work, even though it will be dark.  I'm reminded of those who experience strokes or debilitating accidents where they have to relearn how to speak and do simple tasks.  Resisting and sulking only pushes success further back, no matter who you are and what your situation is.

I guess growing involves shifting.  If we're unwilling to shift when we need to, ultimately we're unwilling to grow.  Here's to a growing day!

1 comment:

Alisa said...

You have talked about pride and control and have really hit the nail on the head for me. The thing that I struggle with most is my reaction to even the smallest changes in how I need things to go. I can't begin to imagine how God must feel when we do things so far from what HE wants us to do. Again thank you so much for your posts latley.
and I agree with you, it does seem as if everyone is in baby mode. Not mee..

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