Effective adjective
1 successful in producing a desired or intended result.
Sometimes Mr. Butler hurts my feelings. Maybe he wasn't listening to me or made light of something really important to me. Often, in response to my hurt feelings, I get very disgruntled with him, build with resentment, ignore him and usually that results in an explosion of feelings at some point. Why would I do that? Well, to be honest, because I am MAD and it feels appropriate. Never mind that it is disrespectful, unChristlike and not effective towards what I am really wanting - understanding, love and resolution. It's those pesky feelings that are dictating (yet again) the state of my relationship.
This is just one situation that was relevant to my weekend, but how many other things are we doing and saying that are not, at all, getting the desired result. Think of a parenting issue - is how you're handling something being effective? If not, why are you continuing? In business, finances, school studies, any relationship - you name it - it is so important to question everything to ensure it is effective. A lot of things seem right, but when put in practice they don't change a thing. This can be especially difficult when what seems right has been done for years, but just because something has been done for years a certain way still doesn't make it effective.
In most things, if we're not being effective we're wasting our time and energy. Take some time this week to take inventory of the things that are working really well and then those that aren't. How can we be more effective?
1 successful in producing a desired or intended result.
Sometimes Mr. Butler hurts my feelings. Maybe he wasn't listening to me or made light of something really important to me. Often, in response to my hurt feelings, I get very disgruntled with him, build with resentment, ignore him and usually that results in an explosion of feelings at some point. Why would I do that? Well, to be honest, because I am MAD and it feels appropriate. Never mind that it is disrespectful, unChristlike and not effective towards what I am really wanting - understanding, love and resolution. It's those pesky feelings that are dictating (yet again) the state of my relationship.
This is just one situation that was relevant to my weekend, but how many other things are we doing and saying that are not, at all, getting the desired result. Think of a parenting issue - is how you're handling something being effective? If not, why are you continuing? In business, finances, school studies, any relationship - you name it - it is so important to question everything to ensure it is effective. A lot of things seem right, but when put in practice they don't change a thing. This can be especially difficult when what seems right has been done for years, but just because something has been done for years a certain way still doesn't make it effective.
In most things, if we're not being effective we're wasting our time and energy. Take some time this week to take inventory of the things that are working really well and then those that aren't. How can we be more effective?
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