Book Review: For Women Only
For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of menBy: Shaunti Feldhahn
Back of the book summary:
What’s going on in a man’s mind? From their early days, every woman has struggled to understand why males behave the way they do. Even long-married women who think they understand men have only scratched the surface. Beneath a man’s rugged exterior is an even more rugged, unmapped terrain. What bestselling author Shaunti Feldhahn’s research reveals about the inner lives of men will open women’s eyes to what the men in their life—boyfriends, brothers, husbands, and sons—are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to “freak out” the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.
A group of us read this book and went through the discussion guide together over a few months. It is a VERY easy read, it is based on Biblical principles regarding marriage, but never gets into doctrine of any kind and seems pretty right on in her understanding/discoveries of the male psyche. The book discusses 7 areas where women often misunderstand or just don't realize about men. So, even though the reader may know some things, chances are there will be at least one or two areas that will help them understand their spouse better.
I always have great intentions when it comes to my relationships, especially with Randy, but I need lots of reminding and repetitions before I really get something. This book taught me things I didn't really know before and reminded me of a LOT that I needed to make a priority. It was a very encouraging read and motivated me to work harder and smarter in my marriage.
My personal tip: Get the Discussion Guide! In it is short recaps, talking points and such, which is great for a group. However, the best gem in it doesn't even require a group! At the end of each corresponding chapter there are questions (homework, if you will) to ask your spouse. It may sound a little goofy at first, but most of us agreed that in having these specific discussions with our husband, we gained a much greater understanding of him, specifically. Which is what it's all about anyway, right? :)